17 November 2011

So Far So Good

Today has been much better than yesterday. I still feel like I could cry at the drop of a hat, but I feel a little more in control today. Of course the day is only half over and generally my emotional outbursts don't happen until between 4 and 6, but I'm confident I'll be able to handle what happens today better than yesterday.  I was able to rest for an hour while I tried--unsuccessfully--to convince Mr. Smiley that it was nap time.  His room is now a complete disaster, but at least there were no injuries to him or any possessions. I call that a success.  Luckily there haven't been any more nose biting incidents.

To those that commented, thank you for your encouraging words. I really appreciate them and your friendship. I was grateful to hear your perspectives that it's easier to have a three kids then be pregnant with two. That gives me hope that I will be able to do this. It really is hard to see that things can get better, but knowing that others have succeeded gives me confidence.  I realize that things are going to be hard for a while but they will get better and I just need to keep plugging on. I can get through these next 8 weeks!


Maile Fano said...

I wanted to post and say that you are being so normal. It is always easier to have one more child than to be pregnant with one less child. Your other friends were right about being able to let the house go for a while until things are under control after the baby is born. It always takes a while to adjust...if you haven't read Kim's blog, you should go back to after she had her fifth and then you will realize everything will come together after the storm. You are great Jamie!

Staceygirl said...

The best part is how time will soften your reflections, and soon this 8 weeks will just be a memory. The last weeks of pregnancy are always the most stressful.

Sharon said...

Remember that the late afternoon (i.e. 4-6 pm time) is not called the "witching hour" for nothing! That's when kids get the most stressful. Everybody's hungry, they've been awake for a while, and mom's got things to do. If possible, spoil yourself with paper plates, frozen food or takeout, anything you can to make your responsibilities a little smaller.
It's true, that last part of pregnancy is harder than having the new baby, because people take better care of you when you have a newborn, and they don't expect you to do much!

Saveria said...

Hi there, I am kind of just a random person who happened to stumble upon this (I am knitting the king charles hat for my Dad :). I however just happen to be a crusader for Mamas everywhere, so I wanted to tell you what I heard.

When I hear people talking about their situations sometimes I just get little whispers. When I read yours I got this feeling that you may be feeling really depleted (which is also kind of a duh, baby in the belly and two other little ones running around).

Still, a few things came to mind that I thought might help make these months more positive. I thought of checking how many essential fatty acids are in your diet. Are you familiar? These are the building blocks to our nervous system. The baby steals them on a regular basis, making it often feel harder to cope. You could add flax oil or seeds, borage oil, hemp oil or seeds to your diet. You could also find a well sourced fish oil or increase fish eating, but it is hard to consistently eat fish without getting a lot of heavy metals in our bodies, so we have to be careful.

I also thought that it might help to increase your uptake of dark leafy greens (kale, collard greens..) or seaweed (dulse, kelp, wakame). This will replace the essential minerals that the baby is also (albeit wonderfully) stealing.

Oh yes, the teas! If you don't already know about them, here are some great herbal teas for pregnancy. Raspberry leaf does every great thing for mamas. It also helps with calcium uptake, which can feel like a great sigh to your body. Nettles tea has almost every mineral that we know of, it is as though it pulls it all right up from the earth. Two other great ones especially for your time of pregnancy are motherwort and partridge berry. Perhaps there is an herbal shop or natural foods market near where you live? I bet they would be happy to help.

Maybe you already feel better, but I figured I would pass it along in case any of it has a chance of helping. It may, but I am realizing that the truth about motherhood is that at times it is just plain hard. You had the best advice about just keep hanging on. I am 20 weeks pregnant right now with a 2.5 year old, so I will think about you when I am there (probably twice with the next one :).

Many Blessings,

PS, I am on ravelry if you have any questions at all. I tell the other folks too that I like to have a reason why I have amassed all of this information on health.